Sooo this was supposed to be March’s topic, but I struggled with the topic and have been trying to think of how I wanted to tackle this subject for weeks (I debated on not writing it all together but ultimately decided to do the topic). To be honest, I haven’t been on the receiving end of mom shaming so much as I have received a lot of people unsolicited parenting advice.
I feel like the difference is the people who give this “advice” are not doing it in mean spirits (which mom shaming definitely is) but trying to advise based on their experiences. However, they should also remember that every new parent has their mind set on how they want to raise their child and handle certain things. If it doesn’t work, let them figure it out themselves. I don’t really want to go into detail of what advices I’ve received (as to not offend anyone), but I’m honestly not offended by them as much as I am exasperated from having to “argue” about why I don’t want to do what they are telling me I “should” do. Giving advice is fine, but if I explain why I am don’t want to do/not do what you are recommending, then the topic should not be pushed. The polite thing would be to either drop it or say sounds good but just keep our advice in mind in case [it] doesn’t work out because it worked wonders for us.
At the end of the day, I think what we all need to remember is that every child is different, what works/worked for one child/family may not work for the other. It’s a learning curve and parenting is hard enough. We should be working to help each other instead of tear each other down or making each other feel guilty about personal preferences.